[previous writing on CONSENSUS led me to sharing a bit more]
These are indicators that your organization, community or team are not in agreement or practicing CONSENSUS. Actually these are sure-fired confirmations that things AIN'T happening with ALL aboard.
"I knew it wouldn't work..." - He / She / They weren't supportive & were just waiting for it to fail (likely even helped to ensure failure).
"Lets agree to disagree..." - One of the most common verbiages used as we try to sell ourselves 'it is the best we can do'. (This is a huge cop-out & indicator that we are not willing to take the time to reach agreement and/or I don't want to hear any more about your opinion.)
"It's just common sense, you ol' blankity blank..." - we are turning toward attacking people
"Sides, agendas, winning/losing, majority/minority...." - All words/terms that tell you we are not on the same page, duuuhhhhh
"You do it your way and I'll do my deal..." - Yeah right, that's going to work
"I told you so..." - obviously no consensus to begin with...
If these (above) are our words, conversations & conclusions - it says:
I see some application of these verses from PROVERBS:
"......Plans go wrong for lack of advice, but many advisers bring success"
".....Pride leads to conflict, those who take advice are wise."