OK, once again...
Some leadership-success can indeed be achieved without it, but it will be fleeting and short-term, 'Pay me now or pay me later (or maybe) 'What we sow is what we reap'...?
A few leaders get this up front; some get it after a few of these painful fleeting-experiences; and many in management fight & hate 'their leadership role' because they just never get this!
This is not only about the personal 'warm & fuzzy' aspect of relationship, but also the functional dynamics of organizational relationship(s). It gets to the heart of the pic/graphic here I espouse over & over & over....
Again, the Learning-Leader will dive deep to understand the depth of what all this means in terms of both his/her PERSONAL & FUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS, ...and therefore their LEADERSHIP SUCCESS.
The leader who will succeed long-term is the one who 'sees' his/her spheres of influence (as some call it). They are the ones who reach out in all directions (horizontally, vertically, diagonally & even throughout those dysfunctional dotted-line relations) to establish, grow & maintain each of them. He/she will not only do this for selfish motives (of making his/her world as good as it can be); but see it 'as their leader duty' - to maintain these relationships for the good of those he/she leads.
When relationships horizontally and above are NOT good, the leader is failing the people. They (those below) are stuck with the consequence of the leader's NOT SO GOOD relationships as it causes issues, conflicts, inefficiencies & dysfunction down below..............(think about it).
Those leaders NOT getting it, will go through seasons of failure as previously-ignored relationships catches up with us all sooner or later -- possibly after months & years of apparent success. If caught soon enough and ...the leader gets what is happening, ...and goes about repairing damage, ...and relationships are returned to GOOD - he/she will experience a resurgence of success. If he/she resists and just continues business as usual, the likely consequence will be turnover, blame/fault taking hold, the manager departing, business downturn or failure, etc.
As I think through this - most of my 20 years of work with leadership, leaders, culture & org. development is a result of all this not being practiced by leaders! Relationships deteriorate (after months/years of ignoring spheres), then leaders & management begin to seek out and spend time and $$$ on programs, gimmicks, giveaways & any other shortcut to fix it. All of these fail long-term!
SOLUTION: Begin now wherever you sit (leader or not) to 'see your sphere'; then reach out in all directions to establish, fix, repair, improve or just maintain at a high level - all of your relationships. Think of it as part of your job-description maybe. Go ahead do it for selfish reasons. Others will benefit as well - do you even see that others are suffering because you won't go do it and alleviate some of their troubles down below?
NOT THE SOLUTION: Blaming the economy, a new org. chart, moving someone so they won't have to work with knucklehead, or some other external excuse or factor....
.....working harder than anyone else!
....working longer than anyone else!
.....being busier than anyone!
.....being in meetings all day long (thus being unavailable for those you serve)!
.....being too busy to answer/return calls!
......telling someone you have time for them - while you return emails, text & take calls (vs listening)!
......producing more stuff!
......circumventing your subordinate leaders doing that 'stupid Skip-Level thing' (when you don't understand the TRUST dynamics in play)!
.......attempting an Open Door Policy when you don't understand how to do it, and really only doing it because you heard it was a good 'management idea'!
'The greatest leader is not necessarily the one who does the greatest things. He is the one that gets the people to do the greatest things.' R. Reagan
[previous writing on CONSENSUS led me to sharing a bit more]
These are indicators that your organization, community or team are not in agreement or practicing CONSENSUS. Actually these are sure-fired confirmations that things AIN'T happening with ALL aboard.
"I knew it wouldn't work..." - He / She / They weren't supportive & were just waiting for it to fail (likely even helped to ensure failure).
"Lets agree to disagree..." - One of the most common verbiages used as we try to sell ourselves 'it is the best we can do'. (This is a huge cop-out & indicator that we are not willing to take the time to reach agreement and/or I don't want to hear any more about your opinion.)
"It's just common sense, you ol' blankity blank..." - we are turning toward attacking people
"Sides, agendas, winning/losing, majority/minority...." - All words/terms that tell you we are not on the same page, duuuhhhhh
"You do it your way and I'll do my deal..." - Yeah right, that's going to work
"I told you so..." - obviously no consensus to begin with...
If these (above) are our words, conversations & conclusions - it says:
I see some application of these verses from PROVERBS:
"......Plans go wrong for lack of advice, but many advisers bring success"
".....Pride leads to conflict, those who take advice are wise."
(This will mean different things to each of us, or sometime soon it will mean something)
When we think we are 'there, in control, know it all, our path is all planned, we have it figured out, we believe we know our future,'
...this is precisely WHEN we are in trouble (some change of direction, a shift is happening, surprise is coming, headed into a valley, etc...!?!
This applies in all aspects of LIFE! Stay Open - Keep Learning - Do Right - Enjoy the Ride!
"Hey was it u?" "No not me." "It must be you then". "No, not me" "Was it you maybe?"
Today, I received a nice note and some dollars for my mission trip but could not read the signature!?! YIKES, who was it?
If you wrote me (and have not received a note in return) let me know plz, it must be YOU😳. Facebook, Linked In, text/email 913.232.0244 / firstname.lastname@example.org
A bad habit (practice) to stop; this is a simple concept PEOPLE mess up in dealing with other people. This is focused on LEADERS, but actually relevant to all of us PEOPLE, in dealing with other PEOPLE - work, play, family, kids, spouses......
Dazzle yourself & others with your capabilities/skills of multi-tasking 'stuff', just do not attempt to do the same with people. When dealing with people, do not fall in the trap of believing you can multi-task in relating & communicating with people.
SCENARIO: Here's what this might look like done wrong: "Hey boss, you got a minute?" In response & instinct & with totally good intentions, the boss says (knowing he can multi-task this situation), "Sure come on in.!"
[We all know what's getting ready to happen don't we? YES, because you have done this to others &/or you have had it done to you]
As you begin to speak about your issue, question, etc, the boss sort of listens as he/she wrestles with a stack of paperwork, takes a call, texts someone 'important' biz' of course, or otherwise multi-tasks around the office.......................
[You get the picture huh? Been there done that, maybe just a while ago}
OUTCOME: You have been blown off (or you blew them off); he/she doesn't care; the relationship is weakened again...
SOLUTION: In the future, tell those you work & function with, you will begin telling them, "from now on when you step into my office & ask for a moment of time, I will tell you the truth. If I really don't have time, I will tell you & we'll figure out a time to follow up. This is so I stop blowing you off & so I can assure you I am giving you my undivided attention. And oh yeah, you do the same to me, OK?."
Then you can return to continue on in your multi-tasking glory..........!